You know that feeling you get sometimes when you question everything about yourself? I call it having a wobble.
I had one yesterday when I started to get pretty down on myself and wondered what the hell I’m doing. Mine was related to writing but wobbles can strike at anytime, usually when you’re on the cusp of a change or birthday! You wonder if your life is going the way your want or planned and whether you are good / clever / talented / pretty enough etc.
Why do we look down on ourselves like that?
I think it’s a fault of all us humans. We see the negative stuff far more easily than the good bits.
I was lucky that when I fired off some down emails to writer friends, I got support and encouragement back and I managed to go to sleep feeling just a little bit better. I’ve realised it’s better to talk it out, tell someone who you’re feeling than suffer in silence.
I woke up today to sunshine and some new ideas that make me realise I just need to re-focus and get some confidence and self-belief back.I need to chalk up yesterday as a wobble day and make sure today is brighter and better!
Do you ever have a wobble? What picks you back up when you do?
Victoria
xoxo
Lisa Wields Words
/ May 23, 2012I cannot resist giving you a bit of nostalgia today http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qq0OQBdIhsc
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Hilarious! I don’t remember that one but I’ve heard of Weebles. Reminds me of the Wombles too!
Lisa Wields Words
/ May 23, 2012What’s a Womble? Now I have to look that up.
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012They live in Wimbledon
Lisa Wields Words
/ May 23, 2012I looked them up, they remind me of the big Jim Henson creatures in Fraggle Rock.
Victoria-writes
/ May 24, 2012They made a few songs too, hilarious! And I love Fraggle Rock!
beckyday6
/ May 23, 2012I’m having a wobble day today, very well timed post! Thanks for knocking some sense into me!
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012I’m glad it helped Becky. Sometimes you have to feel your wobble and pick yourself up later! Hope you feel more like yourself soon!
E.Arroyo
/ May 23, 2012Yes. And I think only writer friends know exactly how I feel. My family just gives me a look as if I need to be medicated. I hope you feel better. I’ve learned to blame all the suckiness on my muse. That helps. =)
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Haha I think most writers could do with medication
Thanks Liz, my muse is very naughty indeed!
suzicate
/ May 23, 2012Weebles wobble but they don[t fall down! (You’re probably too young to remember that commercial.)
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Lisa has shared it with me! Quite a good life lesson in there
thoughtsappear
/ May 23, 2012I’m glad to hear your wobble day is over!
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Thanks!
Lynn Rush
/ May 23, 2012Wobbles are NO FUN at all. Yep. I’ve had them. They can drag you down if you let them. Thank GOD for friends!
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Makes me feel better to know I’m not alone in wobbling!
kford2007
/ May 23, 2012Wow, I have wobble days a lot. I wish I could say what it is that pushes me through them. Faith? Hope? God? A combination of all three? Sometimes I feel I have to bash myself to make me stronger, does that make sense? I think we are our own worst critics, and yes, the bad is always easier to believe. That’s why it’s great to have super friends you can turn to and run away the evil thoughts before they take root. I love the picture of the ‘feeling sad’ book. I copied it and printed it out an put it on my pc. Nice reminder.
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012Haha I love the idea of bashing yourself to make you feel stronger! I get that – you need a good kick in the bad side sometimes! I’m glad you liked it, something to help on the wobble days
Pany
/ May 23, 2012First all I’m also enjoying the great weather – what a change from last week!
Yes, I also have ‘wobbles’. And I agree with you when you say that letting it out feels better – it does.
Victoria-writes
/ May 23, 2012It’s lovely isn’t it! Here’s to overcoming our wobbles!
Kourtney Heintz
/ May 24, 2012I have lots of wobble days. Days when I doubt myself. It can be someone mentioning my weight or my pants not fitting right. I can have trouble figuring out what happens next in my WIP and doubt I will be able to write another word. It helps to confide in friends. To say your worst fear. It somehow goes from mountain to hill. And suddenly you see a path to the top.
Victoria-writes
/ May 24, 2012The dreaded doubts. I’m glad you have friends to help. And you’re right, when you can see some light at the end you feel tons better.
Kourtney Heintz
/ May 24, 2012It’s when you sit alone with it that it feels overwhelming. Thank goodness for friends. And parents. They listen and help too.
Victoria-writes
/ May 25, 2012Definitely, my mum has to talk me off the ledge frequently!
4amWriter
/ May 24, 2012I’m a very wobbly person. And it makes me so mad at myself. I have a very tough time confiding in people, because I was not raised to ask for help or to admit that anything is wrong. As an adult trying to raise my own children I run into bad habits like that as if they were a brick wall.
Writing is the one thing that helps me get through the wobbles. I hope today is a better day!
Victoria-writes
/ May 24, 2012It’s so annoying when you know you’re being silly but you can’t stop the wobbles. Aw I hope you can ask for help if you need it, never be ashamed of that, we all need it sometimes!
leashieloo
/ May 24, 2012My method is probably unhealthy but I allow myself to wallow. I have my little pity party, cry, eat cake, or whatever it is that makes me feel better. I find that once I get it out of my system, it’s easier to move on.
Victoria-writes
/ May 25, 2012Sometimes you just have to feel it. Cake makes everything better
Stuart Nager
/ May 24, 2012Been wobbling for the last two years. aint fun
Victoria-writes
/ May 25, 2012I hope you can stand up straight soon!