Happy Birthday Pride and Prejudice

“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” 

Two hundred years ago today, Pride and Prejudice was published. It’s amazing to think a book that was written so long ago is still so popular today. It’s also my favourite book so I had to mark the occasion with a post.

“Laugh as much as you choose, but you will not laugh me out of my opinion.” 

I first read it in my early teens. My first experience of Jane Austen was the BBC adaptation of Pride and Prejudice. I watched it on TV with my mum and was enchanted by the costumes, the courtship, the balls, the Bennet sisters and, of course, the romance between witty Elizabeth Bennet and dashing Mr Darcy. And I don’t think any of us can not enjoy the lake scene :)

That adaptation kicked started my love of all things Austen. I went to Winchester for the day and brought my first Austen novels – Pride and Prejudice, of course, and Sense and Sensibility. I loved the books as much as the TV show and I was hooked. I read all of her novels and became a fan – although I was less sure of Mansfield Park as we had to read it for English Lit A Level and studying a book sometimes lessens my enjoyment of it. Through the years I’ve re-read them all and what I enjoy changes each time, there seems to always be something new to discover. I have even learnt to enjoy Mansfield Park!

Programme Name: Pride & Prejudice.

“My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.”

I have not only enjoyed the books and the numerous TV adaptations there have been of Austen since. I have also visited her house in Hampshire and marvelled at the pretty cottage where she wrote many of her books. I also went to Bath, where she lived for many years and which appears in her books. They have a museum there and the whole place seems steeped in Austen history. I am constantly fascinated by the world her characters inhabit.

“I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun.”

Yet my love of Austen always comes back to this book. It’s the one I have read the most and I love it as much as I did the very first time. It’s hard to explain why I enjoy it still. Perhaps it’s the study of human nature, the transportation back in time, the well rounded characters, the humour or the romance. Perhaps it’s the fairytale story of a love that sparks across social divides. Perhaps it’s the language. Perhaps it’s the wit and irony. Perhaps it’s the age-old story of opposites attracting. Most likely, it’s all of these things plus the mysterious X Factor that favourite books have. You can’t fully explain your love because love itself is unexplainable.

“Till this moment I never knew myself.” 

So happy birthday Pride and Prejudice and thank you Ms Austen for writing it. You have given me the most enduring love of my life so far.

“In vain have I struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”

Tell me – what’s your favourite book?

Victoria

xoxo

The grass is yellow on the other side

This week I’ve been thinking about relationships and how so many people wish for things they don’t have or what others have. Perhaps thinking the grass is greener on the other side but is it really?

To help me share my thoughts on the subject, I turn to Jane Austen who wrote my fave book Pride and Predjudice and had a few things to say on the matter of love.

Next to being married, a girl likes to be crossed in love a little now and then (Mr Bennet in P & P by Jane Austen).

This post came out of a conversation with a work colleague who was talking about their partner and saying that how they were not what they would look for in an ideal partner but she had realised she couldn’t change him and was putting up with the relationship in some ways. She said that she didn’t know anyone completely happy in their relationship.

This makes me sad. As a single woman I am determined to wait for someone special to share my life with. I am pretty independent and not scared of waiting right now. Settling scares me more – the thought that you would look across at your partner and think about all the things you wish they were instead of all the things they are.

Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. (Charlotte Lucas in P & P by Jane Austen).

I don’t think Jane Austen believed this quote uttered by Charlotte in P & P before her marriage to the bumbling Mr Collins otherwise she would have married and taking the gamble herself. I don’t believe it either. I think marriage is hard work and you need love, trust, honesty and friendship. Of course compromise is needed. You’re never going to find someone perfect, no-one is but I do think they need to tick your requirements in a partner or you’ll always wish for something more.

To be fond of dancing was a certain step towards falling in love.
Jane Austen

Above all, I’d like to meet someone to share things with, someone to support and take care fo me, to have fun with, to make me laugh and hold me when I cry, someone I can trust and be honest with, someone to make me a better person through their love and someone to have a family with.

It may sound a straight forward list but talking to people I know it actually seems to be harder and harder to find. And my previous experiences have fallen way short.

You taught me a lesson, hard indeed at first, but most advantageous. By you, I was properly humbled. I came to you without a doubt of my reception. You showed me how insufficient were all my pretensions to please a woman worthy of being pleased (Mr Darcy, P & P by Jane Austen).

(Photo from BBC)

And there is the subject of wanting what you can’t have. My coupled friends who wish they were single and me who wishes I wasn’t. I think the best advice for both camps is not to wish for things you don’t have, not to wish to be on the other side but to make sure that you are happy in your side.

Happiness does not depend on that perfect man but on yourself. If you find yourself wishing for something, ask yourself if you are truly happy and what would make you happy. The answer isn’t as always easy as you might think!

I am only resolved to act in that manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you, or to any person so wholly unconnected with me (Eliza Bennet in P & P , Jane Austen).

I’d love to hear your thoughts,

With love

Vixter xx

 Ps: I admit it, I want Mr Darcy! Is that so bad? :-)

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