This week I’m thinking about destiny.
When I was younger I believed in destiny – that there was a thing called fate that would lead you on the path of life you meant to travel down. That you’re dreams would come true. I suppose I naively thought life would be easy and I’d get everything I wanted.
When you get older and have more experience of life, I think you realise that it isn’t as easy as all that. Life is hard work and if you want things to change, if you want those dreams to come true – you need to work for them. You need to reach for them.
That isn’t to say that I don’t think things happen for a reason. I do think things tend to work out for the best even if at the time you can’t see it. But I think we have much more control over our lives than I first thought. Destiny isn’t a path set out for us that we must walk along -fixed and in one direction but a series of paths that we need to choose for ourselves.
The pot of gold at the rainbow’s end? You’re the one that needs to find it!
My dream is to be a published writer and I thought that was my destiny. That it would be easybecause I wished for it. But it isn’t. My first book was rejected and that was a wake up call – a tiny part of me thought that it would be snapped up, that I’d be the next J. K Rowling and everyone would love me but the reality has been much different.
Does that mean I should give up? Is destiny telling me I have no hope in hell?
I sure hope not!
I think it means I need to work that bit harder, really try to accomplish my dream and then if I make it, it will be all that much sweeter. So I resolve not to give up and hope one day my book will sit on someone’s shelf next to Harry Potter 🙂
I was listening to the radio the other day and this song came on by Yasmin. I think it sums up my thoughts on destiny today:
And I feel the fire burning, deep within my soul,
Struggling for protection,
When I reach it, let me know!
And I feel I need some guidance,
But my heart won’t let it show,
And although the road is frightening,
I’m gonna make it on my own!
And if I fail at least I know
I did it on,
I did it on my own!
The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny.