So Jude Law and Sienna Miller have announced they have split for the second time and cancelled a second engagement. The first time round he cheated, this time no explanation but got me thinking can it ever really work getting back with an ex?
This happened to me once – I got dumped and instead of realising it was the best thing for the relationship to end, I hung on, trying to fix things and get us back together but only got more hurt in the end. I look back now and think – what were you doing?!
There is something alluring about an ex partner – you remember the good points, you miss being in a relationship and you dream about that elusive happily ever after – all this, pulls you back in.
But can it ever work out?
Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton are classic examples of having the ex factor – they got married and divorced twice, seemingly unable to get pass their love affair but equally unable to make it work as a solid relationship.
I think it’s easy to forget why that person is an ex to begin with. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, e.g. distance, work problems, money issues etc, then maybe once those problems have gone it might work.
However, if you broke up because you were just not compatible, you didn’t want the same things in life, he or she didn’t support you or took you for granted, you had different futures in mind or if one of you cheated and the other can’t forgive, I really think it’s best to put it in the past section of your life and find someone who can be part of your future instead.
If your ex was auditioning on the X-Factor what would the judges say?
Go back or Move on?
I vote – NEXT please! How about you? 🙂