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The social calendar is dwindling

I like to plan. I’m quite an organised person and I like to know what I’ll be doing at the weekend or planning the things I want to take and do on holiday. It’s part of my nature. I also hate lateness, I’m always on time and it annoys me if I have to wait for someone – don’t they have clocks?!!

Lately, more and more people, seem to be moving the opposite way. Plans are left up in the air, no-one wants to make a decision about a time or place, people fail to respond to emails or messages. It frustrates me so much, I end up not bothering to even try or respond either.

As a result, my social calendar sometimes dwindles but it doesn’t worry me anymore.
As I get older, I don’t feel like trying so hard if people won’t meet me half-way, I refuse to be the one that makes all the effort. I’m happy not going out every Saturday night – been there, done that. I want to relax at my weekend, chill out after a long week at work and endless train journey’s, I just want some peace and me time.

I wish I looked like the above when I’m relaxing but I’m more likely to be in sweats with a big bag of crisps to munch through πŸ™‚

Going out and living it up doesn’t bother me like it used to. I rarely drink now whereas when I was younger, I was completely a binge drinker. I suppose I care about other things and would rather stay in and write my second book than have a wild night out. And you know what, I don’t care if people think that’s boring or that I’m a loner loser, this is me now and I don’t feel the need to pretend otherwise.

Do you have a hectic social life? Are you a planner or do you prefer impulsive activities? Have your social priorities changed as you’ve got older?

Vix x

31 thoughts on “The social calendar is dwindling”

  1. Your social agenda sounds like mine! I’m actually perfectly content to go home on a Friday, shut the door and not open it again until Monday when it’s time for work. It didn’t used to be like that, but I think it does evolve more that way as we get older. No plans to me equals a perfect weekend!! πŸ™‚

  2. I definitely think things have changed as I’ve gotten older. Now that all my friends work, it’s harder for us to get together. That’s why we’ve designated Wednesday as girls night. Since that’s already planned, there’s nothing ever to really worry about.

  3. Yup, I hear ya! It’s hard to plan things and get people to commit (I tend to flake too). For me, I’m just tired at the end of the work day and I need weekends to relax…so where’s the time??? LOL!

    I, like you, have really minimized socializing–I stick with close friends so it’s more quality time than quantity time and I can titrate or taper as needed. πŸ˜‰

  4. hey, woman!

    Yes, you will find as you get older, that does change. Sleep becomes more important, saving money for “other” things like furniture or whatever (when you’re not living somewhere already furnished) become your focus vs going out to clubs, drinks, etc. Yes, commutes, will tire you out…

    My first live in boyfriend, we bought a house and moved to a cheaper area, but which require a lot of driving, in southern California traffic! We’d have to get up at 3:45, to get to the gym by 5am (we’d rather get ready there to avoid traffic, yes, at 6am, you’re stuck!) and he worked at 7 and I at 7:30…then I would be off at 4:30 and by the point we wouldn’t get home until 7pm. Weekends, we didn’t go anywhere! (After 2 years of that we got burned out and on each other and moved on)

    Then, it changes even more once you have kids and your sleep becomes even more important as you have early mornings every morning. I rather like early mornings because the world is so quiet and it’s a different (and sometimes nice) view without all the cars zooming by… once you can see after rubbing the “sleepies” out of your eyes.

    Sandi πŸ™‚

  5. As I’ve aged, married and had children, my life is far more sedate and settled than ever. But you know what? I’m far happier than I ever was when I was out late every night and partying. Sure I love going out, but now that it’s a rare treat it’s something I savor and enjoy. I like getting older. πŸ™‚

  6. I 100% agree! At first it felt strange but more and more after crazy work weeks and worknight plans and activities, sometimes I just love having a Friday night to myself and my couch πŸ™‚

  7. As one gets older , hopefully one gets wiser. You realize what is important in life…and chasing pseudo friends so that you have something to do every night…when you really want to spend time with yourself at home is not so important anymore.

  8. Yes my social priorities definitely changed. Like you, I prefer a quiet night at home to relax, watch some TV or a weekend trying new recipes in the kitchen. I guess we really just “grew up”. Here’s a great weekend to you Vix πŸ™‚

  9. Nowadays, I’d rather stay in and I really have to be careful or I will become a hermit. πŸ™‚

    I do LIKE going out and once I push myself, I enjoy friends and socializing.

    πŸ™‚ Your relaxation sounds right up my alley!

  10. No, I have to say I don’t have a hectic social life. I just find it really tiring to always be on the move and from party to party. I’m totally with you about relaxing at home! πŸ˜‰ Really like your blog…I think I’ll subsribe!

    -Tia ❀

  11. Priorities change as you get older, and my social calendar is never full – or even half full! But I like it that way.
    Hub and I are quite happy staying at home and just going out occasionally, or having friends round now and again for a BBQ. We don’t need lots of friends, just real ones that count. Quality def beats quantity!
    I just found you through tinkerbelle86’s Favorite Friday post – and I love the way you write. I’ve subscribed!

  12. I used to love going out but now not so much. I would rather go out for a nice dinner with a drink or two as opposed to a bar, drinking way too much and not being able to hear anyone then the next day have a huge hangover. I’m more of a spontenous person due to my work life. Sometimes at the end of the day I’m just not in the mood to go out and hate flaking out on people.

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