Sunday I managed a near impossible feat and read a book in a day! Sitting out in the garden and soaking up the sun, I listened to songs and finished the book. I wish every Sunday could be like that. I did however get a couple of burnt patches where I had missed the suncream. Opps!
Anyway, moving on to the topic of the post. The book I read was Desires of the Dead by Kimberly Derting. This was the sequel to The Body Finder, a brilliant read about a girl called Violet who has a talent for finding dead bodies – yes it does what it says on the tin!
Despite the paranormal slant to the books, a lot of the plot centres around Violet and her best friend Jay and the fact they begin to fall in love and start a relationship. This got me thinking about how closely romantic relationships are linked to friendship.
In my experience, it’s hard to be just friends with a man. Either one of you develops an unrequited crush or you try a relationship in the end. This could either go very badly – as it has done for me before, or work out and you end up with your soul mate for life. I think you need a foundation of friendship to get you through your years together, either turning from friends into a couple or ensuring you build that friendship as you grow together.
I would like to meet someone who is also my best friend and by that I mean someone you can rely on, someone loyal who will support you, someone you can go to for advice, someone who will stretch you and encourage you to be the best you can be, someone who will listen and someone you can have fun and laugh with.
I think it’s sad when I go out to restaurants or cafes and see a couple dully sitting there with nothing to say to each other, not even a smile to send across the table to one another. I would find that pretty soul-destroying if that were me. If you decided to make the journey through life with someone, you’ve got to be able to find some joy in it together or there’s no point.
Have you ever got together with a friend? Do you think friendship is important in a relationship?