I have been bridesmaid three times in my life so far – twice for cousins and one for a family friend, all when I was younger and all in pink dresses!
Our of the three, one marriage has survived so far but that’s not what concerns me. What is concerning is that having been a bridesmaid three times, I am on dangerous ground when it comes to the possibility of my own wedding one day.
Three times a bridesmaid, never a bride
This well-known saying apparently has two explanations as to its origins:
1. Back in old times,maybe pagan, one of the bridesmaids roles was to confuse and distract any evil spirits that wanted to ruin the marriage and attack the bride. As such the bridesmaids were in danger of being attacked themselves and bad luck could follow. If the girl was bridesmaid too many times could be forever tainted by this bad luck and therefore never get married herself.
- On this one, I refer back to the fact two of the marriages didn’t survive so I obviously didn’t suck away all the evil spirits and bad luck from them. Whether I also got tainted along with them remains to be seen 🙂
2. Apparently weddings were a good opportunity for the bridesmaid to display herself to her community in all her finery and if three such occasions didn’t attract a male then she was likely never to attract one!
- As I was a youngster in the weddings, this probably doesn’t apply as we are in modern times now and 12 year olds don’t get married plus the pink dresses would hold any girl back from attractiveness I think. Or I’m just kidding myself 🙂
I have investigated if there are any ways to break this supposed rule and apparently if I do the bridesmaid duties 7 times I’ll break the curse! I better start making friends with ladies getting married soon and get on their bridesmaid list. Please all bear me in mind for your big day, I have had practice so I know what I’m doing and I won’t divert focus from you, unless the best man is gorgeous then I might have to raise the dress hemline slightly 🙂 And you have to make sure I ctach the bouquet to bring me extra good luck …
Have you ever been a bridesmaid? Is anyone else cursed like me?