blogging, Musings, Personal

This is me

On Saturday, I had my first blogger meet up with Surrey Gal. Meeting someone who had read this blog got me thinking about how different people in our lives see different sides of us. To family we are one person, to friends another, to colleagues another, online another. Different sides of one person. We might share certain things with some people in our lives but not with others.

We share hopes and dreams with very few people, usually because we fear ridicule or failure. It’s easier to keep things to ourselves than to risk others seeing our weakness or mistakes. For me it is writing. Very few people around me know that I want to write or that I write this blog. This is because I fear I’ll never succeed at it and don’t want others to know that. Maybe I’m missing out on their support, maybe they’ll share their dreams with me I don’t know, I’m not quite ready yet. But putting more of the real me into this blog is helping on that journey.

Sometimes we share more with people we’ve never met than those we’ve known for years. Sometimes I share more on here than I would to those around me offline. Maybe we need these separate worlds, we need the opportunity to express who we are in different ways and forums. But we have to try and not hide who we really are. Because if people can’t accept it then they shouldn’t be part of our lives. It’s an on-going journey to be the real you and to share that with everyone.

These lyrics spring to my mind …

This is real, This is me
I’m exactly where I’m suppose to be, now
Gonna let the light, shine on me
Now I’ve found, who I am
There’s no way to hold it in
No more hiding who I want to be
This is me

– Demi Lovato, This is me

I hope I get to meet more bloggers in the future, it was great fun to put  a face to the writing and to talk about the people we are here in our blogs. Blogging is a route to self discovery and the final destination is sure to be am amazing one!

Vix

xx

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67 thoughts on “This is me”

  1. We’re the same. i share more of myself here than to the people around me. Maybe I’m just scared at the thought that they might judge me negatively. But, sure, blogging is really where i always say what i wanted to say. I doubt if my friends ever visited my blog. 😀 haha

  2. I think we may share more with strangers because we don’t care so much about their opinion. I mean of course, we value it, but if they don’t approve of us it won’t hurt as much as if somebody we love or are close to wouldn’t approve.
    We want to be accepted and if we don’t open our hearts to those closest to us it’s because we are scared of being hurt.
    I hope it makes sense what I’m trying to say.
    Oh, and my mum doesn’t know half of the things my readers know… 😮

  3. oh my god..i could’ve written this…all of it, so so true.

    wrt blogs…im still trying to figure it out…just practice for a bit…i am going to tough health stuff, so i feel a need to “let it out” along the way, but i’d rather be fun and talk about books and my dreams…but that scares me too…being exposed, risking failure…huge on my mind.

  4. I have found so much of myself in other’s blogs. Reading another post heightens my understanding of people and in turn…understanding me.
    Someone had to almost force me to get a blog…now I can’t imagine not having one.

    Side note—I am thinking of writing a paranormal…people I know use fairies and humans—falling in love…but that image you present has me thinking…where did you get it. I would love to use it as an inspiration. It certainly has me thinking.
    Jaye

  5. How fun to meet a real, live blogger! I’ve always thought it would be the very best dinner to sit around a table with blogging buddies and wine (lots and lots of wine). I think you are absolutely spot on. I see myself 150% different than how I am perceived!

  6. True, we do tend to share more with people we’ve never met…it’s almost like it’s easier to risk ourselves with them than those we so desperately want approval from.

  7. Great post Vicky. I sometimes wonder if I will ever discover or reveal all the layers that are me. I’m kind of lost at the moment.

  8. I was lucky enough to meet a group of my blogging friends a few years back when they came up for the Jane Austen Week – it was so nice to put real faces and voices to their personalities.

  9. These days, who I am rarely depends on who I am with. I follow Dr. Seuss’ advice: Be who you are and say what you feel . . . those who mind, don’t matter . . . and those who matter, won’t mind. 😀

    Accept that no one else can ever truly understand you and your unique point of view. Focus on understanding yourself.

    When we know WHO we are, we know HOW to live.

    We spent the day with a blogging friend in February and had a blast. Here’s to more meet ups!

      1. A blogging retreat sounds like heaven, even though right now I feel like I’m leaving the world of blogging. But maybe a retreat would do me good.

  10. I’m a little jealous of both of you! 🙂

    Sometimes we share more with people we’ve never met than those we’ve known for years. Sometimes I share more on here than I would to those around me offline.

    Agreed. There are folks I’ve never yet met face-to-face but seem to have some kind of direct brain-link established with me. I love it, and I hope I get a chance to meet them.

    I’m open about my blog with the folks I know, but I do have occasional moments of shyness where I’ll think, “I cannot post this on Facebook.” It doesn’t matter if it’s going to be public. The act of sharing it directly makes it feel even more personal and makes me feel more vulnerable somehow.

    I’ve met a few folks from my old LJ days. I have yet to meet anyone from this blog, but I’ll look forward to the day that’s no longer true!

    1. I like the idea of a brain link – it’s crazy how you can share thoughts with people thousands of miles away and pretty cool! I hope you get to meet some readers soon!

  11. Blogs are a good way to connect with people who might think the same way we do or feel the same way we do so that we don’t feel so alone. At least that’s how I see it.

  12. I love the post! I don’t tell a lot of people about my blog either, and of course my family knows nothing of it! I think it’s easier to write all about ourselves when the majority of our readers don’t actually know us and can’t judge us. That’s awesome that you got to meet up with one of your readers! I hope I can meet some of mine someday! 🙂

  13. It is great that you met up with someone. We form an image of people through their blogs and it would be interesting to see how wrong/ right we are. Also many of us are more open in blogosphere than in “real” life so you get to the heart of a person quicker and it must have been great to have shared that

  14. I can’t wait for our blog meet up, it’s on my fun to-do list.

    I think about this a lot too. We have so many faces/sides, but it’s all the same building, if you will. I think it’s a matter of who you are in response to one person and who you want to be when you have a bit of anonymity. It’s hard, I try to be consistent, but I just don’t think it’s possible.

  15. That is sooooo awesome that you had a bloggy meet-up! No one’s even remotely close to me… gonna have to travel one of these days! Just need to save up some money. 🙂

    I’m pretty confident that the “me” you’ve come to know here in the blogging world is very close to the “me” in the physical world. I think I have a little bit more confidence in the sharing of myself here only because in general it is easier for me to put my thoughts and feelings into “written” words versus sharing verbally. All of my friends and family know about my blog and I do share it on Facebook and Twitter. Whether they chose to read it is up to them. I will say that there are times that I have decided not to blog about certain situations because I know that people directly involved could be reading. That is when I turn to a journal and document those things that are not meant for certain individuals eyes. Sometimes, I do wish that my family and friends didn’t know about it, but then again some of my posts have proven to be therapeutic for all of us.

    I have totally loved getting to know you Vicky! Hoping that one day we will get to meet in person! 🙂

    1. Yes you need to travel over here 🙂 I agree it’s easier to write things down than talk about them and blogging can be like therapy sometimes! I love hearing what you have to share!

  16. Blogging is such a great release, isn’t it? I’m glad to have ‘met’ you through here, and always look forward to your posts Vix. 🙂

  17. Best thing I noticed was that so many writers are just like me, living the same ups and downs. I am not alone in my little writing closet! Yay for blogging families! I came over from Vicki’s blog. Nice meeting ya.

  18. That’s so fun that you had a blogger meet up! I keep my real life and blogging life totally separate and like you I’m not quite ready to merge the two. It’s nice to share common interests though with fellow bloggers and it has helped me to grow as an individual.
    Thanks for the thought provoking post!

  19. … and I thought I was the only one who constantly thinks about the lyrics to that song even though it’s from Camp Rock 😉 Yay for meeting up with a fellow blogger – I think that’s awesome! And yay for your blog 🙂

  20. I always wonder how it would be to meet some of the other bloggers. It’s strange to have so many interactions with people in the online world, but to never actually see each other or to personally interact.

  21. Hi vix. This post really made me think. It’s mirroring thoughts I hadn’t formed yet but so true. Its made me realise why I love blogging so much. Its given me an actual clarified reason. Thank you. I love blogging, and its probably because you can write do and post whatever you like with no reason to why… Sorry this is all a bit rambled… But I second many others opinions here. Great post.

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