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I feel like I’m standing at a crossroads – the left path is the one of stability, security, not rocking the boat, no change, no fear but perhaps lacking in that elusive lady – happiness; the right path is the unknown, the path of fear, of taking a leap of faith, of not knowing where you might end up but one with the promise of opportunities, of a brighter future somewhere on the horizon.

There’s no set career path to becoming a published author and whilst you beaver away in your bedroom writing no one in the world can see it. It’s not until you get a book on the shelves that it’s actually classed as your job. Meanwhile, you need money and so you work every day at something that isn’t your true passion and that sucks time away from writing.

I read this post yesterday and it summed up this very point. What do you do on the job front? I’m wrestling with this very question right now. I’m not as passionate about my current career path now because I know in my heart I want a completely different one. Practically though I know I can’t do much about it until I actually sign that book deal and even then most writers have to supplement their income unless they a big success very quickly.

Should I change my situation? How would I do that? Should I gamble more on my writing? Question after question rolls around in my brain and to be honest just makes me want to curl up in bed and pull the covers over me to shut it all out!

Phew sorry for the ranting but it helps to get things down on the page. I’m trying to be a writer after all πŸ™‚ So here I am at the crossroads and I’m looking for a sign to show me which road I should be taking.

Have you ever been faced with a crossroad? How did you make your choice about which road to take?



53 thoughts on “Crossroads”

  1. I have in the past waited until things got so out of control or depressing that I had to change something. Personally, I don’t adapt well to change…with anything. With that said, maybe you just need to stay the current path longer while making smaller changes? Think about what you can change now that will help but not totally mess you up down the road…and then change it.

    If works an issue, try to find a new job. If you’re losing passion, try doing what you first did to get that passion…if it still doesn’t return than it wasn’t meant to be.

  2. This is a tough question to answer as I feel my life is perennially at crossroads lately, and with every choice I make I simply come to another crossroads. But, I will refer you back to a post that I know you have read before, but it still stands true to my philosophy

    I think that working toward happiness and fulfillment should be our guide in life. But, how to achieve those two elusive feelings and still keep financially secure is, of course, the challenge. I’ll let you know if I ever get on a road that keeps heading in one direction.

  3. I am so there with you…. and have been having some tough days recently trying to decipher which way is the right way to go since I lost my job. It’s hard to know exactly which direction I want to go, either staying in the same field where I’ll probably have to pick up two jobs to make ends meet or take an office job on the other side of Pittsburgh that will pay the bills but NOTHING I ever wanted to do.

    THANKS for your post today, it was definitely a sentiment I am feeling; I told Laura, you guys all seem to know what words I need to hear on any given day. Yesterday RNP had the exact words I needed to be reminded of and today both you and Laura. Thank you for that my friend. xoxo

    1. I wish I could help you, sounds an impossible task but I know you’ll make the right decision. Would any extra trianing in the field you want to do (Childcare? Teaching?) help you get more money in the future maybe? You could then do that alongside the office job for a while.
      The three of us are like one mind! Scrap the above advice, just come on over here and be with us πŸ™‚ xx

  4. oh Vix how i love you! totally feel your pain and i know that place only too well, i would love to give up the day job and write but i have bills to pay so i carry on day in and day out. be sure that you will chose the right path for you πŸ™‚

  5. I just made this my Facebook profile, and I think it is going to stay that way for a long time: β€Ž”Life is like an ice-cream cone, you have to lick it one day at a time.” Charles M. Schulz

  6. Oh I am always in that state. I completely understand the situation because I go through it every single second of every single day. And there is this feeling of helplessness which worsens the state.

    But as aspiring writers we must always light the candle of hope in our hearts and let it guide us until we sign that book deal and forever πŸ™‚

    All the best πŸ™‚

  7. I am in the very same boat. I want to write so badly. It is all that really soothes me…. but I too spend 40+ hours a week doing something else, stealing moments away to attack the keyboard. I think in some aspects you have to take the leap of faith… I know I spend a lot of time that I really do not have trying to make my blog more popular and land it in one of those 500 viewer a day categories… but its just not easy.

  8. Hey Vixter. When I started my own business almost 11 years ago everyone thought I was crazy. I left my secure job and just ‘jumped’. Sure, it was scary and very rough at the beginning (and still sometimes is), but I don’t regret doing it. At the time, I figured I would give it a go, and if it/I failed, then there was nothing to say I couldn’t go back to what I had been doing previously.

    You are a terrific writer, so hope whatever you choose brings you the success that you deserve!

  9. Vix:
    Do not apologize for ranting…a writer must.
    I suggest joining a nationwide organization…
    I belong to a local chapter of RWA(Romance writers) any genre can join.
    The monthly meetings are 4 hours of instruction and learning…plus
    when you meet an agent at a function, they talk to you differently than when you are unattached.
    At a sponsored luncheon I met 3 agents who were interested in my work.
    All three read and then decided against signing me…but the rejections were in personal letters…it was evident by the content they actually read my few chapters…one even headed the rejection…Dear Jaye:
    Hope that helped

  10. Yes, I’ve been at a crossroads. My husband’s advice was to “coast”. Just take it easy and see how life progresses. He used that term “coast” so often, we thought of naming our 2nd daughter Coast! LOL!
    Good luck with your decisions. One thing is clear though — your goal to be published. Keep writing.

  11. My hubby’s ex wife wanted to be an author so she got a job as a journalist to boost her income. She’s now quite a famous author and still writes for the local paper when she needs to.

  12. Oh boy, I’ve been standing at that crossroads for a while now. Basically, I’m waiting until my youngest child is no longer dependent on me so I can take that leap. It won’t matter to me if I live in an airstream at the state park, but I won’t do that to my kids. Hopefully, though, I’ll have gotten myself into a better position to be able to keep my current home and still quit the rat race before I’m 50. Hell, if I can do it when I’m 50, I’ll still call it success. That gives me 3 years. Youngest will be 18 then.

  13. I feel your words. I often wonder if it’s luck, determination, pure talent, or a combination that sets some writers apart from others. I never persued my writing first, always been a backburner, Not sure if I lack confidence, skill, or drive. At any rate, I enjoy it this way, yet there is still that “only if I had….” that lingers in the back of my mind. And Lisa, I just stole that quote for my FB status…thanks!

  14. You are young, you have no greater obligations (children, mortgage, and so on). If not now, Vix, when? The more ties you have the less likely you are to take the right path (or path to the right, shall I say πŸ™‚ ). Brave people who take risks achieve things… If your mum can help you financially, take a year (or whatever time you may need) break and follow your dreams. If they don’t work out you will know you tried. If they do – what a bonus!

  15. Vix I feel you, I feel like I am always at some crossroads. And taking the less safe road is scary, but there can be something so liberating about it. But you have to do what i right for you. And the truth is whatever you do is what is right for you. If you leave your job you will find another job. If you stay with your job you will find a way to achieve your other goals.

    But at the same time there are no guarantees. It used to be that getting in with a big company meant you can bank on retirement. HP laid off a lot of people who were with the company for life and some just about to retire. Actually a lot of companies have done that. So there is no real security. But what there is, is a balance in life. You may leave and it may be hard and take a long time, but you will find your next move. It takes as long as it takes, and it happens on it’s own time. We really cannot force it. If you try and force something you end up with a big mess. Trust me on this. You already have the answer, put aside all the scary voices in your head and listen to that still calm voice that guides you.

    Do what your heart tells you to, follow your bliss and you will always be happy. Now that sounds like a fortune cookie πŸ˜€

  16. Vix, I have learnt time again that it is often the fear of choosing the wrong path that kills us. The “what if”. No matter which path we choose, its the “what if” that makes us miserable. I say weigh your pro’s and con’s carefully, choose a path and never look back. It is not easy to ignore the “what ifs” but if you can let that go, you will be fine no matter which path you take. Good luck! πŸ™‚

  17. I feel like as much as it sucks sometimes, life is full of crossroads. I know I had one with my career and went with the road of you only life once and that my job stability wasnt worth the mental and physical anguish I was going through.

  18. I know I am feeling the same way…do i go back to a job that is unsatisfying, but plays the bills, or do I take a chance and try something else. Decisions, decisions…. I have faith that what ever we choose will be the right thing.

  19. I’m sure you’ll make the right decision, Vix. I wish I’d pursued writing more when I was younger. You’re definitely on the right track!!

  20. I would rather be a failure at something I love to do, than a success at something I don’t. ~ George Burns

    Life is a daring adventure, or it is nothing. ~ Helen Keller

    And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~ Anais Nin

    But . . . if we’re too focused on reaching the destination, we miss all the lovely detours along the way.

    Good luck!

  21. Boy oh boy, can I identify with you! Nancy let me know she shared my blog post with you (above), and I hope it helps. I decided a couple of years ago to face my biggest challenge: do what I love and the $ will follow. Meanwhile, I was getting unemployment compensation (laid off). So I finally finished and published my eBook and started my blog – feeling my way blindly along. It has been harrowing financially, (this month unemployment compensation ended) and I have been applying for jobs all along – but so far no job. For me, it’s been living on faith and action toward my goals, and I’ve grown so much spiritually, I’m a different person. I’m going to keep doing what I’m doing because I think it will pay off eventually, and I don’t know what else to do. I don’t have answers for you – just wanted to share my experience. By the way, I am also playing the lottery. Might as well give spirit every opportunity to deliver!

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