Life, Musings

To thine own self be true

It’s a very old quote and has been over used but I still find it relevant today. There are so many pressures around either peer pressure or media pressure or just pressure you put on yourself to follow the crowd, to be who you think other people want you to be or do what you think other people want you to do. You feel you need to change or not do what you love or make sure you life follows a certain path but there’s no right way to do things, no right way to be or live – we all have to follow our own paths, our own hearts, our own dreams.

But what does being true to yourself mean? I think it’s about finding out who you are and loving that person and staying true to them. It’s not easy to do but I think finding that strengh is key to being happy with yourself and your life. As you know, last week I struggled with self-doubt and got a bit lost but I realised that even though I might fail, I’m trying to do something I want to do, I’m trying to find my own way and that’s far better than settling for something else.

Don’t lose it all in the blur of the stars
Seeing is decieving but dreaming is believing
Its okay not to be okay
Sometimes it’s hard to follow your heart
Tears don’t mean you’re losing
Everybody’s bruising
Just be true to who you are

– Jessie J “Who you are”

How do you stay true to yourself? How easy do you find it to follow your own path?



29 thoughts on “To thine own self be true”

  1. Ach, it’s hard trying to find your own path. I really want to be famous but I feel that I’ve left it too late or my mum has been wrapping me up tightly in cotton wool. I’m scared.

    That saying, Jessie J does write some pretty good songs, I personally love “Nobody’s Perfect” (and I normally HATE modern songs!)

    Jules x

  2. I try to keep and open mind and try new things. If I like something, I resolve to stick with it as long as it continues to interest me. Same goes for relationships and carrer – I think it’s a matter of continually reevaluating where you are and what you want. It’s often hard initially, but becomes easier as you grow to understand yourself and what you want out of life.

  3. It’s tough to find your own path, and it can be filled with many curves, turns and even u-turns. The main thing is to stick it out. Hold true to your values and you’ll find the way. ๐Ÿ™‚ And, if you get all wonky, it’s nice to have friends around to get you going in the right direction again ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I keep my values in front of me all the time and I refuse to care about what anyone thinks of me. It’s my life, not theirs!

  5. I had a hard time with this up until about 5 years ago. I was the biggest people pleaser ever. My family didn’t really know me, because all I did was what they expected of me. Even though it wasn’t who I was. I had to move away to really figure things out. I realized that a lot of things I thought I didn’t like, I actually REALLY like. I realized that things I was scared to do, I was really good at, but thought I would be ridiculed. I spent too much time and energy being who people wanted me to be, and wasn’t allowing myself to be me. All this time later, I’ve figured it out.

    I only do what I want to do. I say, “No.” I take chances because I want to. I don’t talk about things with people who I think will try to change my mind, put me down, or discourage me. A lot of things, actually, I keep to myself until they’re all done, or it’s too late for other people’s opinions to take effect. For the most part, I don’t care any more. I’m just focused on being happy and living my best life, so the rest of it doesn’t matter. It’s hard to make the switch, but once you do it, it’s the best thing ever.

  6. Following your own path is different than trying to beat the world at its own game. Fame for being a celebrity just means you’ve got the flavor du jour. In my lifetime I have wanted to be famous, to be talented, to be rich, to be beautiful. I have been none of these things. There was always someone thinner, prettier, with better clothes and better hair. Plenty had more money. Plenty had more talent. As for fame, just never had any.

    Today what I want is to be comfortable and at peace. The rest? It’s an endless chase that will never lead to happiness.

  7. I read this earlier and wasn’t sure what to say. I think a lot of times I did what was best for everyone else and sacrificed my own well being at the time. I don’t like that I’ve forced myself to compromise so much of myself so many times. I am trying to change that, but there are factors in my life which I have to yield to. It’s been a challenge and I am still trying to figure it out, but as long as I keep trying I figure I will find the right way. Maybe those sacrifices were my path before but maybe they may be the thing that allows me to change my path.

    Vix I think it’s all part of life, the good and the seemingly bad, but I think the one thing I haven’t compromised on is my integrity. I think we’ll all suffer from self doubt and have to struggle and make concessions, but if we don’t change our fundamentals, if we maintain our integrity we will be able to find the right path and be able to persevere. I think we’ll all be alright, rough patches will pass and sparkly days lie ahead.

  8. The way you answer your question chimes with my thoughts as well. Finding out who you are and loving that person.It’s true but it’s very easy to forget this under the pressure of life. Very good, thoughtful and always worth saying

  9. Oh, I have missed your posts! Taking a week off was not even worth it! I’m sure my comment probably just reiterates what a lot of other people have told you, but actively trying to be a certain way, a certain type, a certain look is hardly worth the struggle. I went through this a lot in the past, pushing myself to act or say or behave a certain way that wasn’t natural for me. By the time I was the “it” I wanted to be, I was tired and wishing I remembered what being me felt like.

  10. Excellent points made, Vix. You’re truly on the right path. Mine’s pretty simple too, just try to work hard and do the right thing.

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