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Crashing through a crisis of confidence

As you know for the past few days, I have been feeling a bit down and lacking in self confidence, convincing myself I won’t be able to succeed with my writing. Over the last couple of days though, I have been feeling stronger and more confident and have gained some of my bounce back. I feel like my crisis of confidence is on the decline and am starting this week more determined than ever.

Some of the reasons for this change are:

* The support of my blogging buddies. I posted this great quote I found on Facebook – “Talent is helpful in writing, but guts are absolutely necessary” by Jessamyn West, and Lisa and Megan immediately encouraged me that I have both. Having such support means the world to me, I’m so grateful.

* Connecting with other writers. I’ve made an effort to reach out to writers online and it really helps to hear their publishing stories and I guess feel part of that world. I was especially grateful to Anne Van for her sweet response to my email and for giving me a success story when I needed to hear one.

*Giving myself a stern talking to. I’m still waiting to hear back from most of the agents I’ve submitted my manuscript to. This means it hasn’t been rejected yet. I have to have positive attitude that I can get a yes. And even if the first batch say no, there are more agents out there I can go to. I read about the author of THE HELP recently too – her book has become a bestseller and been turned into a Hollywood film and she was turned down by 60 agents until the 61st one said yes.

*Coming up with new ideas. I think worrying about my current submission has lessened more because I have come up with a new concept that excites me. So I suppose having a Plan B has perked me up because I don’t have all my eggs in one basket.

So I feel more hopeful today than I have for a while and even though I have a long way to go to completely believe in myself, I’m getting there and I realise that though this journey may be a long and tortuous one, it will be worth it to make my dreams come true.

The moral of this story is that I’m going to keep reaching for that elusive thing confidence and hopefully soon I can live up to this picture:



34 thoughts on “Crashing through a crisis of confidence”

  1. What a great post Vix – I too am desperate to get my book done and to get my career in media off the ground. But I too can lose patience. I really don’t want to be in my current job for much longer, yet I know how fickle being in the Media is! I just hope I can reach my dreams sooner, rather than later….. *le sigh*


  2. Glad you are coming out of your funk! Unfortunately, with me it’s a cyclical thing and it always seems to come back around. Thankfully, the lows haven’t lasted as long as the highs.

    Good luck on your submissions! That’s always nerve-wracking to begin with.

  3. Glad to hear everything is going a bit better! I’m still praying for you and I know you’ll do great in your writing endeavors! You are very talented and I definitely believe you’ll make it!

  4. I’m glad you’re feeling more upbeat. But in the event you are rejected, CARRY ON and send them out to even more agents. Some of the biggest sellers have been rejected an obscene amount of times!

  5. When we define “success” as reaching some distant destination . . . we are always yearning for something outside our grasp.

    When we define “success” as enjoying the journey . . . HERE AND NOW . . . we win.

    No matter what happens . . . we win.

  6. Sometime confidence issues are quite useful, as you say. I always say this to everyone; patience is key. Also, a low can help on a path to self-discovery. I know it’s helped me before. And maybe that will help you in your writing. Good luck!

  7. I think it’s important to keep moving forward. It’s going to happen for you, but it’s hard to do the waiting part. I am glad you are feeling more confident. We’re all here to support you.

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