Musings, Personal


You know that feeling you get sometimes when you question everything about yourself? I call it having a wobble.

I had one yesterday when I started to get pretty down on myself and wondered what the hell I’m doing. Mine was related to writing but wobbles can strike at anytime, usually when you’re on the cusp of a change or birthday! You wonder if your life is going the way your want or planned and whether you are good / clever / talented / pretty enough etc.

Why do we look down on ourselves like that?

I think it’s a fault of all us humans. We see the negative stuff far more easily than the good bits.

I was lucky that when I fired off some down emails to writer friends, I got support and encouragement back and I managed to go to sleep feeling just a little bit better. I’ve realised it’s better to talk it out, tell someone who you’re feeling than suffer in silence.

I woke up today to sunshine and some new ideas that make me realise I just need to re-focus and get some confidence and self-belief back.I need to chalk up yesterday as a wobble day and make sure today is brighter and better!


Do you ever have a wobble? What picks you back up when you do?



32 thoughts on “Wobbles”

  1. Yes. And I think only writer friends know exactly how I feel. My family just gives me a look as if I need to be medicated. I hope you feel better. I’ve learned to blame all the suckiness on my muse. That helps. =)

  2. Wow, I have wobble days a lot. I wish I could say what it is that pushes me through them. Faith? Hope? God? A combination of all three? Sometimes I feel I have to bash myself to make me stronger, does that make sense? I think we are our own worst critics, and yes, the bad is always easier to believe. That’s why it’s great to have super friends you can turn to and run away the evil thoughts before they take root. I love the picture of the ‘feeling sad’ book. I copied it and printed it out an put it on my pc. Nice reminder.

    1. Haha I love the idea of bashing yourself to make you feel stronger! I get that – you need a good kick in the bad side sometimes! I’m glad you liked it, something to help on the wobble days πŸ™‚

  3. First all I’m also enjoying the great weather – what a change from last week!
    Yes, I also have ‘wobbles’. And I agree with you when you say that letting it out feels better – it does.

  4. I have lots of wobble days. Days when I doubt myself. It can be someone mentioning my weight or my pants not fitting right. I can have trouble figuring out what happens next in my WIP and doubt I will be able to write another word. It helps to confide in friends. To say your worst fear. It somehow goes from mountain to hill. And suddenly you see a path to the top. πŸ™‚

      1. It’s when you sit alone with it that it feels overwhelming. Thank goodness for friends. And parents. They listen and help too. πŸ™‚

  5. I’m a very wobbly person. And it makes me so mad at myself. I have a very tough time confiding in people, because I was not raised to ask for help or to admit that anything is wrong. As an adult trying to raise my own children I run into bad habits like that as if they were a brick wall.

    Writing is the one thing that helps me get through the wobbles. I hope today is a better day!

    1. It’s so annoying when you know you’re being silly but you can’t stop the wobbles. Aw I hope you can ask for help if you need it, never be ashamed of that, we all need it sometimes!

  6. My method is probably unhealthy but I allow myself to wallow. I have my little pity party, cry, eat cake, or whatever it is that makes me feel better. I find that once I get it out of my system, it’s easier to move on.

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