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Turning thirty

Today is the start of March – the month that I turn thirty in (the 20th just so you know!). I don’t know why it seems like such a significant birthday. I think it used to be the age when you were supposed to have everything sorted out, be married with a family and basically become a GROWN-UP. The media definitely seemed to think that once you hit your thirties and you are single, you were a spinster likely to be eaten by Alsatians. See Bridget Jones for starters.

When I was younger, I saw thirty as a big, scary, far-off age, kind of old actually but now I’m here, I realise I don’t feel that different to when I was that teenager. I don’t feel all that grown-up and thirty doesn’t seem to herald the end of everything if you have’t ticked off all the life lists when you get there. Maybe this is because people are doing things older now, we live longer so thirty is seen as still young and it’s harder to do the life lists things like buying a house as it’s so freaking expensive.

There’s a still a whole bunch of articles around about what you should have done by the time you hit thirty or how to cope with your birthday (yes I may have Goggled turning 30) but getting to this age has taught me that you can’t be what others think you should be – you can only do what you want to do and when you want to do it.

There’s a song by the Dixie chicks that I can relate to called”The Long Way Around”:

Well I never seem to do it like anybody else
Maybe someday, someday I’m gonna settle down
If you ever want to find me I can still be found

Takin’ the long way
Takin’ the long way around

It makes me feel better that maybe I’m not married with kids or living in my own house but that’s okay, I can do things my way. Right now, I’m focused on my writing career. It took me a while to realise that writing was what I wanted to do with my life and fighting to make this dream come true is what’s important to me. My thirty wish is to get a book deal and while some people may think that’s great or others can’t understand, it doesn’t matter – what matters is that it’s my wish. You can’t live your life based on other people’s wishes, we all do things in a different way and a different time. There’s no RIGHT way to live your life. It’s your life after all.

I have got lots of lovely things planned this month to make sure turning thirty is full of fun. And I may have a couple of wobbles about hitting this age but I will remember this:


How do you or did you feel about turning 30?




36 thoughts on “Turning thirty”

  1. Thirty was a year of big changes for me, I look back at it and wonder how I did it all now. I think it was the start of growing up, in the sense of becoming more aware of myself and being less worried about the decisions I made and more aware of the consequences of making bad choices based on other peoples needs. I would like to say it happens easily, but learning never stops. Enjoy the birthday and the life, it is the journey not the destination.


  2. For some reason — I don’t know why — 25 was a scary age for me. It could be because I remember thinking as a teenager that 25 seemed so far off and OBVIOUSLY I’d be married with kids at that point. I can totally relate to what you said about not *feeling* any older, because when I got to 25 I didn’t feel any different to when I was 15 (and having all those crazy thoughts of children)! So now 30 doesn’t worry me too much…

  3. 40 hit me hard. 50 was easy breazy. Try to surround yourself with friends and try not to focus on the number. It’s just a number. Remember, you’re like wine…you only get better with age.

  4. My 30th birthday is among my favorites. I looked it not as getting older, but crossing a threshold. One era is over, while a new one begins. I looked at my thirties as a chance to go through life with a little more wisdom under my belt.

  5. I’m also turning 30 this year (next month already, wow) and wow, you summed up my feelings entirely. ^^ I’m also not married, don’t have kids (but don’t want either, anyway) and don’t have my own home, but all I really want is to further my writing career!

  6. My birthday is also the 20th! I’m two years older than you are. I love that our birthday coincides with the equinox. At this point in my life, Spring is more exciting than my birthday! 32 isn’t a particularly exciting milestone. 35 might be.

    Enjoy your 30th; make it memorable.

  7. I got married when I was 30, so it was a whirlwind of a year. A combination of feeling more mature and embarking on a totally different life, yet also not knowing what I was getting into, so that I now look back on it and realize how young I really was.

    Happy B-day in advance. πŸ™‚

  8. You should read “Manning Up: How the Rise of Women has Turned Men into Boys” it’s all about the pre-adulthood we’re stuck in, sometimes into our 30’s which is why we’re not getting settling down with kids as young as we used to! I’m not 30 yet but will definitely be super bummed about it if I don’t reach my personal goals by that age! Just make it memorable! I’d say until at least 35 “age is nothing by a number.” It’s approaching your 40’s that I think is scarier. Enjoy!

  9. I’ve struggled a bit watching my friends getting married, buying houses, and having babies and have felt like I SHOULD (terrible word) be doing these things. But like you said, there’s no “right” way to live life. As long as you’re happy and doing things YOUR way, it’s a life well lived. Enjoy your birthday month, and I wish you so much happiness and success πŸ™‚

    1. It can be really hard watching others do those things for sure. Yes, I think finding your own happiness and basically following your bliss is what we need to do. Thank you so much Rachel and I wish the same for you!

  10. It hit me hard. After college I always had a “this will happen by 30” concept in my head for things. So I never stressed because thirty was always so far off. Until it wasn’t. It was right there. It took me a while to realize I have to live my dreams, not the dreams others have for me. I’m 35 and single because writing is the most important thing in my life. And I want to focus all my time and energy on it. In my mind, you’re ahead of the game–halfway to being published (aka having an agent) before 30. That’s a major achievement.

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