Sharing your dream

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This photo was on Facebook the other day and it struck me how true a statement it is. I remember how scared I was about telling people I had written a book, it felt like I was revealing a part of my soul and I was nervous they’d laugh or sneer. Luckily that didn’t happen but even now I’ve got over the sharing part, having your dream out in the open still produces insecurity and anxiety.

The problem with sharing your dream is that everyone starts waiting for that dream to come true.

Now that people know I want to be a published author, I am sometimes struck with panic about it not coming true. Having a secret dream is easier, if you fail no one knows and you can act like nothing happened but when everyone knows what you’re aiming for, they will also know if you don’t achieve it.

The only way I’ve been able to talk myself out of this fear is remembering that not everyone tries to make their dreams come true. And this is so important. Because you can’t fail if you try, you only fail if you don’t or you give up. It’s often said that you should never regret the things you do, only those you don’t and it’s better to say ‘oh well’ than ‘what if?’ What if is a scary concept and I’m glad that I decided to chase my dream. Yes, I worry about having to tell people my dream isn’t coming true but I know I’d be worse off if I wasn’t trying to make it come true.

Fear is a huge thing. Somehow writers seem to end up with self-doubt circling our heads on a daily basis but we write because we love to do it and the dream that someone will read our words and be moved or inspired by them makes the dark days worth it.

I don’t know if my dream will come true and yes I am scared that it won’t but I’m glad I’m trying to make it happen.

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Were your scared to share your dream with people?

Victoria

xoxo

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11 thoughts on “Sharing your dream

  1. These are the facts. I have been blogging for two years, and am now wobbling on the edge of planning and writing a book. It seems that at least half the people in Blogland wish to write books, and I’ve never heard of anyone coming to Blogland because they want to read what others have written rather than have what they’ve written read. This all makes the process of writing a book and getting it published seem enormously intimidating. Given that, the fact that you have written your novel, revised it, got yourself a real-life agent and put yourself out there is of more credit to you than I can ever express. Be very proud of yourself. You have every right to be,

  2. Great post. It is hard to share your dream with others, but you’re right, it’s better to try than to not risk it. It’s only by taking risks that we can make things happen. I’m sure you will achieve your dream some day. Good luck πŸ™‚

  3. It’s very hard because everyone expects it to happen right away. Like it doesn’t take years to hone your craft and then have luck and the market meet. πŸ˜‰ And sometimes you have to make the market yourself. I’m very proud of you for leaving your job and taking a risk. It paid off! You have an agent. You are shopping your book to editors–those are major major forward movements toward your dream. I know publication is the end goal but we have to enjoy all the steps toward it because we never know which one will be the step that gets us there. πŸ™‚ And I agree if you don’t try you have already failed. Guilt is better than regret.

  4. Yes! When I first started blogging I didn’t want anyone to read in case they thought i wasn’t good or disagreed with my opinion. I got knocked a bit by some American guy trolling a few years ago, but I got up, dusted myself off and realised that’s one persons opinion.
    You supported me from the start, and I really appreciate that πŸ™‚

  5. Pingback: Entry 1: Is My Dream Really Coming True? | My Life is Blu

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